Mikala Albertson MD

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Dear Kids, I Am Always On Your Side

It feels like the world shouting at us with every turn.

You’re not smart enough or successful enough or beautiful enough. You’re not a good enough mom or a good enough wife. You don’t spend enough time with your family. You’re not working enough or earning enough. You don’t have a big enough house or nice enough clothes. You’re not thin enough or young enough or pretty enough.

You’re just not enough.

Not enough. Not enough. Not enough.

And our children?

They hear it too. How could they miss it??? The message is everywhere.

YOU ARE NOT ENOUGH.

Can I tell you my one and only parenting goal for my children as they grow???

That mine will never be one of the voices shouting from every direction, ‘You are not enough!’

Nope.

My voice will never tell them that.

Never.

Instead, mine will be the strong clear voice shouting above ALL the noise…

I AM WITH YOU.

You are smart. And beautiful. And strong. And capable.

I believe in you. I am ALWAYS on your side!

Even when their choices are different than my own. Even when they choose their own way. Even when I don’t agree. Even if they lose their footing for a little while. Even if sometimes they fail.

Mine will never be one of the voices whispering “You are not enough…"

Not ever.

I am their MOM, and I only hope they hear…

"Oh, my darlings. My whole entire heart. You loves of my life. I AM WITH YOU. And you are so much MORE than enough."